There are a lot of different factors that come into play when it comes to being successful. Today, let’s focus on two of them (being organized and being on time) that can make a huge difference in your day-to-day life. Think back on some of the most successful people you’ve met in your own life. The chances are they were good at both of these - organized and on time. There’s a reason why both of these factors will make such a big difference when it comes to being successful.
Both being on time and organized can help you make the best possible use of your time and energy. When referring to energy, it includes both mental and physical energy. We have a limited supply of both along with being restricted to 24 hours on a given day. In other words, both time and energy are limited resources. What being on time and staying organized helps with is making the most of those resources and focusing them on tasks and activities that help us reach the goals that define success.
There are two different ways in which being both on time and organized will help you succeed. Let’s look at both of them and then briefly discuss how to get better at them.
Being On Time And Being Organized Saves You Time
How much time have you wasted this week looking for a misplaced item or file? How about your car keys? How much time have you wasted because you didn’t show up on time for an appointment and ended up having to wait? Making an effort to be on time and staying organized helps you save precious time and energy. Being on time is all about time management and awareness. Work will always stretch out into however much time you give it. Becoming more aware and better at time management will help you work more efficiently. The same is true for being well organized.
Being Organized and On Time Helps You Look Professional
Showing up late for an appointment or interview makes you look bad. So does not being prepared or having to dig around for a few minutes to find something needed. That is particularly true when it comes to first impressions. Work on getting better at both, so you get the chances you deserve, and people see you as the respected person or expert in your field that you are.
How To Get Better At Both
You now know why it’s important to work on getting organized and being on time. So, let’s look at how we can improve both those skills. What it comes down to is getting into the habit of being conscious of time and staying on top of organizational tasks. Yes, if you’re exceptionally disorganized, it will take some up-front work to clear things up. Once completed though, you have to make an effort day in and day out to put things back in their place and stay organized. That is true for physical items, digital items, and even thoughts and ideas. The short answer then is to practice both being on time and staying organized on a daily basis until they become habits.
Being kind doesn’t have to be a big deal. You don’t have to be sacrificial or a martyr to be nice to other people. Remember when you learned about the Golden Rule – do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It’s that easy.
Being kind doesn’t have to cost you anything more than a smile or remembering your manners. And it’s easy to develop a kindness habit, once you get into the groove of being kind to people it just gets easier! In today's world it is important that we demonstrate the change we want to see in the World. Spread kindness and love not anger and hate. Unsure of where to begin?
Here are some suggestions to help you get started:
Smiling is easy, cheap and sustainable. It’s also contagious – smile at someone and their immediate reaction is to smile back. The act of smiling is relaxing and floods your brain with endorphins. As a bonus, smiling lowers your blood pressure and your stress levels.
By making eye contact and giving a genuine smile, you are showing respect and making connections.
Don’t wait for people to connect with you. Send a message, a card or flowers to someone you haven’t seen for a while. Chances are you’ll brighten their day. If you know someone has been having a rough time, check in with an ‘are you ok’ message.
If you have elderly neighbors, check in with them to see if they need anything.
Offer Some Hugs
Offer your partner, kids or friends a random hug for no reason. So many people are starved of physical affection. And often as children grow up, they get hugged by their parents less and less. A warm hug lifts them and will make everyone feel good.
If you’re routinely too busy for social occasions, or your kids’ school function or sport, step back for a minute and set some kinder priorities in your life. Give the gift of your time and your support.
Be A Kindness Role Model
Think back to the people who have shown your kindness, maybe a teacher or a boss or mentor. How did they affect your life? By including kindness in your life, you can be an excellent role model for your colleagues, friends, and family. Show them that being kind is a priority for you.
Give Some Random Compliments
Notice when someone does a good job or is looking great. You have the power to lift their day by noticing and acknowledging their efforts.
CHALLENGE: I challenge you to compliment someone randomly when your out and about running errands and to reach out to someone you have been avoiding to extend well wishes. Then come back and let me know how it made you feel afterwards.
Regardless of how much we love each other and work at our romantic relationship, there are bound to be arguments. We are two very different people trying to live one life together, after all. When fights do occur, it shouldn’t be a free-for-all. Just like every other “game” in life, there are rules to fighting that everyone in love should abide by if they want to remain in a happy relationship.
Choose Your Timing Carefully
As soon as your partner walks in the door from a long day at work is not the time to pounce on them to change their behavior. It can take real self-discipline to hold your tongue when you want to get something worked out right away, but waiting until everyone is in the right frame of mind to discuss a volatile situation is worth it. When we barge in without taking into consideration the mental state of the other person, we inevitably make the argument much larger than it needs to be.
Use “I” Language
We’ve all heard this, but it bears repeating. The other person is immediately on the defensive when a sentence starts with “You do ___ and I don’t like it….” It’s just human nature because it feels like we are being attacked. But keep in mind that no one can make us feel anything - only we ourselves can do that. So, switch your “you’s” to “I’s.” Say something like, “I feel ___ when you do ___.” It’s not just semantics - to shows that you are in charge of your feelings. You are focusing on the feelings instead of the behavior you don’t like. This makes the other person feel safe enough to let down their guard and discuss the situation more rationally.
Focus On The Now
It’s so easy to get all worked up and start pulling out grievances from months or years past. Most people tend to argue about the same type of issue over and over. For example, money and parenting issues are common, even in the most loving relationships. Take care to avoid bringing up the past. And, if one of these slips out, apologize and come back to the current issue.
Never Say Never
This connects with the tip above. When you start throwing around words like always and never, you know you are in dangerous territory. It’s usually an overstatement that simply escalates the fight and does not accomplish anything, including rectifying the situation.
Hopefully your not in a relationship where you fight everyday like cats and dogs but to think even a perfect relationship is free of arguments or conflict would be naive. But as long as you can follow these simple rules and always remember to keep an underlying tone of respect in the argument then you will be able to overcome and grow through almost any conflict you encounter with your partner.
When all else fails.. walk away, take some CBD and continue the conversation at a later time when you both have cooled down and have come to a clearer perspective. 🤗
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